The Sunday Stealing for this week are Prompts and more prompts.
1) How do you show others love? What makes you feel loved?
I thought about this for a long time. I think it’s trying to suss out or observe what makes somebody feel loved. It’s not the same thing from person to person. Some people appreciate you cleaning, making food, remembering birthdays, listening to them, sharing music: I don’t think there’s a universal thing.
I feel loved when I feel heard, when I tell somebody something, and they acknowledge it, or when I write something and they understand what I’m trying to say. The closest appropriate song here is “Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood” by The Animals.
2) Who is someone you admire? Why?
My mother’s mother’s mother’s father, James Archer, is one of three great-great-grandfathers of mine who fought in the US Civil War and survived. He then worked to buy a home that was where four generations lived. I even renamed the Gulf of Mexico after him!
3) Do you have the qualities you value in a friend?
For the most part. I listen well. Yes, I know how to keep secrets; I keep a LOT of secrets. I know a few things to offer advice, but I don’t assume my advice is always accurate or even requested. Sometimes, it’s just showing up. Being a friend is like jazz.
Missing Rball
4) What is something you enjoyed doing when you were younger but don’t do anymore? Why did you stop doing it?
At the beginning of 1983, I played racquetball regularly, first with one or two people and then with a coterie of about a half dozen people. We played at the Albany YMCA in Washington Ave. until it closed in 2010, much to our great disappointment. I tried playing a few times at Siena College, but it never clicked. So racquetball, which I got to be surprisingly good at, has gone off the table for the last decade
5) What is something other people think is fun but you don’t?
Arguing online, watching reality television, and shopping, for instance.